Lighthouses don't go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.
I found this piece of advice online, in my random Internet searches.
I did some fast research to find it was authored by Anne Lamott. She is an author, public speaker. . and everything that comes with talking about what you think in public. I never read any of her stuff, actually, but, I do like this little quote.
In the dating world, people say how women want to fix, change and otherwise help men and are overly attracted to men who are emotional unavailable or somehow "broken." The same is true for men, else we wouldn't have that whole "knight in shinning armor" thing and damsel in distress thing.
See, we are much more alike than we think! It's in the nature of both men and women to look out for each other - and just because someone comes with a little baggage or is a little rough around the edges, it doesn't mean s/he should be totally avoided. Sometimes, a little help can turn a sob story into a great story.
There is a lot of stress on independence (remember my Strong, Independent post?) and standing on your own but sometimes, all you need is another person.
However, there are a lot of relationships built on unequal ground - where one side is a mess and the other believes s/he can fix it. The truth is, until someone is willing to accept help, it doesn't matter how hard you try, your endeavores will fail. The best we can do sometimes, in life and relationships, is stand strong and let other's know we are here, we care and however dark it gets, there will always be a light to walk toward.
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